Let’s pivot together.
Last week, one of my dearest friends lovingly challenged my language choice when I reported to her that during COVID we were “drinking unreasonable quantities of tea”.
She had called to check in on our emotional health; to see how we were weathering this collective storm.
“I’m going to challenge your word choice,” she said, sliding into her professional role as therapist. “What if instead of drinking ‘too much tea’ or ‘an unreasonable amount’ you are simply ‘enjoying tea together’ as part of your COVID experience? Because unless we’re talking about you pounding a bottle of vodka every night, drinking an extra two cups of black tea every day is a valid part of your coping strategy.”
Oh, yes. Language matters, doesn’t it?
And so her loving lesson settled in deep.
If you were to swing by our kitchen this season, you would indeed find us enjoying copious and frequent mugs of black tea during quarantine. And on the days when I’m really lucky, you might also find my kids cooking, baking, and churning out gorgeous loaves of bread, lofty and beautiful cakes, and rich rhubarb ice cream for us to savor as well.
Are we eating too much wheat, sugar, and other comfort foods these days? Last week, I would have laughed, and said, “YES!” But this week? I’m going to say no. We’re simply… enjoying a few treats during this time hunkered down at home. And not unlike our garden and house projects, foraging trips to the woods, and hours in the workshop, it’s just another piece of how we’re getting by. No judgment, no baggage, just us: surviving (and even thriving) during quarantine. How comforting it feels to put down that judgment and negativity. Exhale.
How about you? What are you gravitating toward this season? Is it more in the neighborhood of yoga or dark chocolate? Television binging or deep meditation? Lattes or herbal infusions?
All are valid. There’s no shame in your coping game, friends.
4 thoughts on “Are you drinking “too much” coffee, or just making space for self-care?”
I love to bake. But I also love to eat what I bake and my waistline shows it. I’ve worked too hard to just accept baking as my coping and allow it. Dang it. So it has to continue to remain sparse and I’ll look for other more healthy methods of “enjoyment”.
I just love the photo of your darling daughter holding the cake decked out with the cheerful yellow flowers.
Amen to enjoying additional tea time, coffee and dark chocolate!!
Totally! And maybe we’re just finally enjoying what we wanted all along.
Thank you for this! I needed to hear it.